Interpersonal Communication (Or The Lack There Of)

Soft Skills Courses, Business & Professional Coaching / Training e-Learning Communication HR Human Resources for you and your organizational development.Interpersonal Communication (Or The Lack There Of) In The Age Of The Internet

By Joel Elveson – Independent Executive Recruiter – Headhunter

The feel of the pen or pencil in between your fingers for many of us (myself included) has become more of a rare phenomenon rather than a routine method for jotting down notes or thoughts. Picking up a rubber eraser or using the eraser on the top of a pencil to eradicate a spelling error, or a sentence you no longer want written, is one of the rarest of processes these days. The spell checker on your computer will take care of the above for you in addition to correcting your grammar. A simple push of a key and everything is okay.

Face to face personal conversations, when they are conducted, are strained and awkward. Instead we prefer to IM, PM or Tweet what we want to say to whom we want to say it. Asking about how a person’s day was is now done through “the net” devoid of any emotion or sense of caring being conveyed to the other person. Your device can insert a picture illustrating how you feel or acknowledging how the person you are communicating with is feeling.

It is now possible, in many cases, to close a mortgage without having to leave where you are. Point, click, and sign, and before you know it you are done. Money is moved electronically from bank A to bank B. Any questions you may have are similarly responded to without a human voice. No voice or a human face to see who it is you are working with.

In some extreme cases, proposing marriage to somebody who you have chosen to be your life partner is done with a few key strokes. Questions about dinner or to your child’s teacher about their progress are no longer necessary to be done face to face. Why personally interact when you could be doing a million other things while having your “conversation?”

The power, and the untapped potential of the internet, has become the focal point of our lives as it can and has done so much for us. While it is subject to debate how measurably better it has improved the quality of life you still have to marvel at its power to help you in numerous ways.

Can the internet inspire you and offer you appreciation? The answer for right now is no. But, at the rate of speed we come up with new technology, someday the answer may be yes. The love, appreciation, and inspiration we need can only be achieved the “old fashioned way” (thank you John Houseman) by interpersonal communication.

Years back, it was TV that numbed us by entertaining us and telling us what somebody decided we needed to know. Being that as it may, the living room TV was the gathering place (along with the dinner table) for the family to sit side by side and talk with speech generated through our vocal chords.

Much of those cherished moments are now gone. How many cartoons have you seen where the boyfriend and girlfriend or the family are together in one room but are communicating via text messaging each other. When the texting stops a feeling of uneasiness overtakes those involved as they are no longer used to the spoken word or how to verbally respond to a question.

I (we) can extoll the virtues of the internet along with its new found portability throughout the course of many days and nights. However, we must be ever cognizant of the fact that we are in danger of losing the ability to physically communicate. The internet was never intended to do that but we let it happen. We must now beg to have the question “where do we go from here” answered.

In the meantime let me say hello and ask how you are today? By the way, my name is Joel and what would your name be? Interpersonal Communication. May it never disappear from our lives.



Business & Professional Coaching / Training e-Learning Soft Skills Communication HR Human Resources for you and your organizational development.Joel Elveson is an Independent Executive Recruiter – Headhunter with Independent Executive Recruiting By Joel, which is a firm, Joel started under the guise there is a more “user friendly” way to go about the staffing & recruiting process.

As a “veteran” of the insurance & mortgage industries Joel always strove to find the best solutions for his clients while providing his employers with “value added” service.

From those vantage points, Joel became keenly aware of what separated a bad employee from a good employee. In addition to the above, Joel learned the intricacies of each business and what made each “tick.”

Joel Elveson took his love of insurance, mortgage banking and lending and translated it into a more meaningful way to do business.

Joel Elveson
Independent Executive Recruiter – HH Headhunter
Independent Executive Recruiting By Joel
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